Sometimes it’s just not possible to sort through tough times alone. Problems can build up, and you may lose sleep, find you can’t concentrate at school and feel hopeless. Talking to someone you can trust can help you understand the situation and your own emotions better. There are many resources if you are thinking of leaving a difficult home situation.
When we grow up in a difficult home environment it is easy to think adults are of no help. This is not accurate or helpful thinking. There are many adults who are dedicated to helping you get the services and help you need to be able to focus on school or learning a trade. But, you have to be open to trust them.
When you need to talk to someone, your school counselor (sometimes called a guidance counselor) can be a great place to start. Counseling is just a process of talking to someone who is not involved in the problem you face and who has education in how to listen with kindness and without judgment. This person has your best interest in mind and can support you as you figure out your options and decide on a course of action. Counselors value confidentiality. In Washington State, teens age 13 and older can request counseling services without the consent of their parent. A parent cannot request to see the records of counseling without the written consent of that teen.
You can also call Y.E.S. at 509-671-7293. The people at Y.E.S. will talk with you about your worries and will help you get the support you need to deal with your difficulties. People at Y.E.S. will offer counseling free for those who would like help in sorting out options and putting experiences in perspective so you can feel good about yourself and your choices.
Here is an article written by a current honor student at WSU who grew up homeless.
None of My Teachers Knew I Was Homeless. They Should Have.
Pend Oreille County Mental Health Services and Counseling Services
Counseling Services provides mental health services to individuals who are residents of Pend Oreille County and the North Central Washington Regional Support catchment area. This includes residents of Adams, Ferry, Grant, Lincoln, Okanogan, and Stevens counties. They take medical coupons for payment of their services. Their office is located at 105 S. Garden Avenue, Newport, WA.
Services are available 24 hours a day, 7 days per week. No appointment is necessary for walk in crisis services. For crisis services during office hours, please call (509) 447-5651 or 1(800)404-5151. For emergency services after hours, call 1(866)847-8540 and a crisis counselor will be available to discuss your needs. For immediate assistance with life threatening and/or medically dangerous situations – call 911.
Please note that the crisis line is not intended for use as a line to leave messages. You may leave a message by calling our office at 509-447-5651.To obtain additional information or to schedule an appointment, please call 509-447-5651 or our toll free number at 1(800)404-5151. TDD/TTY call 509-447-0480. For emergency services after hours, call 1(866)847-8540 and a crisis counselor will be available to discuss your needs. For immediate assistance with life threatening and/or medically dangerous situations – call 911Pend Oreille Counseling Services
Regular office hours are 8:00 a.m. to 4:30 p.m., Monday through Friday, excluding holidays. The main office is located at 105 S. Garden Avenue, Newport Washington. Outreach offices are located in the Cutter Theater in Metaline Falls and various Selkirk school district areas, dependent on available resources.
To contact the main office call 509-447-5651 or 1(800) 404-5151 [TDD 509-447-0480]. For crisis services after-hours, call our crisis line 1(866)847-8540.
You can call 1-800-RUNAWAY. The National Runaway Switchboard has access to more than 13,000 resources throughout the country, such as support groups, counseling and drug treatment centers, and youth shelters. They also have a wealth of information regarding legal issues and medical concerns. Call them and they’ll get you the help you need.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. By dialing 1-800-273-TALK, the call is routed to the nearest crisis center in their national network of more than 150 crisis centers. The Lifeline’s national network of local crisis centers, provide crisis counseling and mental health referrals day and night.
The Trevor Project (LGBT) The Trevor Project is a national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth and teens.
The Kids Health website has lots of information about situations teens face—divorce, stepparents, pregnancy, body image, relationships, friends, etc. –helping you to understand the situations as well as your emotions about them.
If you’re getting bullied, talk to your parents, the school counselor, a teacher, or another adult you trust. People will help you. This website will help you learn about what to do about bullying:
Family Crisis Network
Rural Resources Community Action This is a resource and support program located at 956 South Main, Colville, WA.
National Alliance for the Mentally Ill NAMI is dedicated to improving the lives of individual and families affected by mental illness. NAMI’s support and public education efforts are focused on educating America about mental illness, offering resources to those in need, and insisting that mental illness become a high national priority. Mental illness is a serious medical illness that affects one in four families. No one is to blame. Treatment works, but only half of people living with mental illness receive treatment. NAMI has engaged in a variety of activities to create awareness about mental illness and promote the promise of recovery.
Teens, this page is for you: http://www.nami.org/template.cfm?section=Child_and_Teen_Support
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence It is the mission of NCADV to work for major societal changes necessary to eliminate both personal and societal violence against all women and children.
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services.
Statewide 24 Hour Hotline
1 (800) 562-6025
Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
WSCADV is primarily a resource for programs that assist domestic violence victims and their families.
Pend Oreille Counseling Services
http://www.pendoreilleco.org/county/cs.asp This is a duplicate, remove.
To contact the main office call 509-447-5651 or 1(800) 404-5151 [TDD 509-447-0480]. For crisis services after-hours, call our crisis line Protocal- 1(866)847-8540.
Crisis services requiring immediate medical services and/or possible danger to public – call 911 or Pend Oreille County Sheriff’s Dispatch (509)447-3151
Thinking of Running Away?
We all go through difficult moments in life and sometimes those difficult moments seem to last forever. However, there is always hope and help if we know where to find it.
Being a teen is not easy. Teens often struggle to find their identity and become independent. Most teens feel misunderstood by parents and others close to them and some may even feel disconnected from everything around them. These feelings are all very normal and are usually balanced by the excitement of growing up and exploring the world in a healthy way.
Sometimes, however, personal frustrations along with problematic situations at home lead some teens to think about running away. Running away is a big decision that can have serious consequences both in the short and long term. Life on the streets is difficult and dangerous; not as attractive or exciting as is often portrayed in movies and books.
In this article you’ll learn more about that reality of what it’s like to run away, and you’ll also learn about some other options that could help you. The following website will also give you good information to consider when making a decision about how to solve the painful or difficult situation you’re in. You can also call them at 1-800-RUNAWAY. http://www.1800runaway.org/
If you are thinking about running away, first consider the many dangers you would be exposed to on the streets. It is not just about facing extreme weather conditions. Homeless teens, and adults as well, are subject to assault, rape and prostitution and may contract life-threatening illnesses such as Hepatitis and HIV. The link below provides additional information about what happens to many runaway teens once they are on the street.
Emergency youth shelter programs are available nationwide and provide the basic necessities. Many youth shelters also provide other beneficial services such as counseling and case management. However, youth shelter services are in high demand and they may not be able to accommodate you if there is no space available. Click on the link below to get more information about youth homeless shelters.
Most adult shelters do not accept teens. Be aware that adult shelters may not be safe for teens. Click on the links below to learn more about some of the dangers associated with adult homeless shelters.
Most states have laws about the age that teens can leave home and what is to be done if they runaway. It is good to familiarize yourself with these when thinking about running away. Click on this link to learn about the legal aspects of leaving home:
After reading the information provided by the links above, you may begin to realize that running away could actually create more problems for you than it would solve. However, you may also be thinking that you cannot possibly cope with your problems at home either.
While your situation at home may be really difficult, it is best to think about other options before you make such a big decision. Give some thought to the following:
WHY DO I WANT TO LEAVE HOME?
It is good to have a clear understanding of why you want to leave home. Try to clearly identify the reasons by making a list of the things and/or situations that are causing you to want to run away. These may include:
WHAT ARE SOME OPTIONS?
What to do is the second question to ask yourself. Write down a second list with possible solutions to the problems you identified. Do not include running away as a possible solution, but give yourself room to be creative and look for all possible options. For example:
It may be that after considering all the possible alternatives and looking into available resources you still decide to runaway. If you do so, be sure to obtain as much information as possible about resources for homeless teens available in your community. Contact the National Runaway Switchboard at 1-800-RUNAWAY for 24-hour confidential crisis intervention and resources; If you are and LGBT youth, click on the link below for LGBT youth shelters across the country.
Check out the Safe Place website: http://www.nationalsafeplace.org/homepage.shtml
The best time to get help is NOW. Do not wait. Get information, access resources, talk to people who can give you advice. Be informed, be smart and be safe.